tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-44567500834118475862024-03-13T04:22:58.064-07:00The Life StudioHelping you to think differentlyThelifestudiohttp://www.blogger.com/profile/01833198516102192136noreply@blogger.comBlogger21125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4456750083411847586.post-67545959859286002022014-02-27T03:11:00.001-08:002014-03-28T07:44:58.238-07:00Are you iLost?<br />
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I am watching a couple sitting in a coffee shop, well I'm assuming that the
fact they have walked in together and kissed each other on the
cheek means they are together. But now I'm not so sure, they haven't
made eye contact since, both are engrossed in a small plastic touch-screen
they are clutching. He is smiling at his screen, and she is frowning
at hers. Maybe they are emailing each other? Maybe by some freak of nature
neither of them are able to talk and so they email each other to
communicate. Occasionally they look up and share a snapshot of what is taking
their attention. It's not an invitation to a conversation, more of an excuse
for their absence. Only their bodies are in the coffee shop, the rest of them
are iLost out in the ether, connecting with millions of others who
have also left their bodies parked somewhere. Their sex life must be
electric...not! Or maybe I'm old-fashioned, I mean, you don't even
need to touch a real human to access sex at the touch of a button.<o:p></o:p><br />
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A mother and cheeky faced toddler come back from the till with a tray
loaded with sugary bribes. She sits down, he wants her to play. She
gets her phone out and becomes engrossed in the screen whilst trying various different distractions with her left
hand which look like she is reaching out for a light switch in the dark.
He isn't fooled by her remaining body, he knows she
has left the building, is iLost, so up's the anti of his noise. All he wants is her
quality time but he only knows three words, iPhone, iPad and
mum. <o:p></o:p><br />
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Relationships can't be made using technology, relationships come from
conversations and shared experiences, relationships build-trust and true intimacy. This is why we get
annoyed when a computer voice calls us from our bank, why we avoid the computer
tills, the computer petrol pump etc. It creates a barrier to trust. <o:p></o:p><br />
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At any one second there is a gazillion terabytes of stuff inviting you to
leave your body, the trick is to be in charge of it. These terabytes love to
fill your unattended and unvalued space, so unless you want your candy crush score etched
on your gravestone, put the god damned thing down sometimes and go
ask another human being how they are today.<o:p></o:p><br />
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Last year I saw many clients with an addiction to their iPad in the 50-65yr
bracket. They had rewired themselves to get achievement from their word
search scores, instead of their businesses. (I mean who is going to ask the
CEO what they are really doing?) Spending time in
chatrooms and only grunting at their partners for six months,
inventing excuses to sneak off and spend time online. One guy even booked
himself into a hotel so he could indulge in candy crush guilt free. Pixels
are the new mistresses and affairs of 2014.<o:p></o:p><br />
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So ask yourself when you get the urge to escape through the plastic
screen 'Where do I need to be present right now?' Get in charge of your
technology and use it to create more time to have the freedom to spend quality
time with those that you love.<o:p></o:p><br />
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Right I'm just off to do my emails....<o:p></o:p><br />
Thelifestudiohttp://www.blogger.com/profile/01833198516102192136noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4456750083411847586.post-89537616081325679262013-10-31T09:57:00.001-07:002013-10-31T10:11:52.867-07:0010 Certain Ways to Achieve Unhappiness<br />
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<span style="color: #505050; font-family: "Helvetica","sans-serif"; font-size: 13.5pt; line-height: 150%;">In the UK, we all love a good moan, the weather, sports, our politicians, the news, who did what..the list goes on. When does a moan get out of hand? We've all had 'that friend', the one we start to avoid because they spend hours banging on about the same thing over and over and over, yet invest nought minutes doing anything about it. </span></div>
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<span style="color: #505050; font-family: "Helvetica","sans-serif"; font-size: 13.5pt; line-height: 150%;">Years ago I used to have a flat mate that talked at me so much, I once went for a shower, came back and she was so stuck in herself she hadn't even noticed I'd gone! Moaning can be addictive, it keeps us in a whirlwind of self-obsession which is like driving the mind round and round a roundabout. The faster it goes the less likely it is to notice an exit. What a waste of creative energy and investment of time. Check your moan-o-meter.</span></div>
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<span style="color: #505050; font-family: "Helvetica","sans-serif"; font-size: 13.5pt; line-height: 150%;"><u>Here are 10 certain ways to achieve unhappiness</u> : </span></div>
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<li class="MsoNormal" style="color: #505050; line-height: 150%; margin: 0cm 0cm 0pt; mso-list: l0 level1 lfo1; mso-margin-bottom-alt: auto; mso-margin-top-alt: auto; tab-stops: list 36.0pt;"><strong><span style="font-family: "Helvetica","sans-serif"; font-size: 11.5pt; line-height: 150%; mso-fareast-font-family: "Times New Roman";">COMPLAIN</span></strong><span style="font-family: "Helvetica","sans-serif"; font-size: 11.5pt; line-height: 150%; mso-fareast-font-family: "Times New Roman";"> - keep going on about the bad
things that happen and ignore the good. Keep quiet about the real issues<br />
<o:p></o:p></span></li>
<li class="MsoNormal" style="color: #505050; line-height: 150%; margin: 0cm 0cm 0pt; mso-list: l0 level1 lfo1; mso-margin-bottom-alt: auto; mso-margin-top-alt: auto; tab-stops: list 36.0pt;"><strong><span style="font-family: "Helvetica","sans-serif"; font-size: 11.5pt; line-height: 150%; mso-fareast-font-family: "Times New Roman";">AVOID YOUR PROBLEMS </span></strong><span style="font-family: "Helvetica","sans-serif"; font-size: 11.5pt; line-height: 150%; mso-fareast-font-family: "Times New Roman";">- Sleep, eat, over work, drink,
procrastinate, go on a rebound, denial, blame others, blame
yourself, fill time with social media - anything to avoid dealing
with, or understanding the real issue<br />
<o:p></o:p></span></li>
<li class="MsoNormal" style="color: #505050; line-height: 150%; margin: 0cm 0cm 0pt; mso-list: l0 level1 lfo1; mso-margin-bottom-alt: auto; mso-margin-top-alt: auto; tab-stops: list 36.0pt;"><strong><span style="font-family: "Helvetica","sans-serif"; font-size: 11.5pt; line-height: 150%; mso-fareast-font-family: "Times New Roman";">COMPARE YOURSELF NEGATIVELY
WITH OTHERS </span></strong><span style="font-family: "Helvetica","sans-serif"; font-size: 11.5pt; line-height: 150%; mso-fareast-font-family: "Times New Roman";">-
frustrate yourself over things that others have, or have achieved and you
haven't....yet! Become an expert at thinking you are not good enough<br />
<o:p></o:p></span></li>
<li class="MsoNormal" style="color: #505050; line-height: 150%; margin: 0cm 0cm 0pt; mso-list: l0 level1 lfo1; mso-margin-bottom-alt: auto; mso-margin-top-alt: auto; tab-stops: list 36.0pt;"><strong><span style="font-family: "Helvetica","sans-serif"; font-size: 11.5pt; line-height: 150%; mso-fareast-font-family: "Times New Roman";">WORRY ABOUT THINGS THAT HAVE
NOT HAPPENED YET </span></strong><span style="font-family: "Helvetica","sans-serif"; font-size: 11.5pt; line-height: 150%; mso-fareast-font-family: "Times New Roman";">- after all there is no end to ones worries,
especially imagined worries<br />
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<li class="MsoNormal" style="color: #505050; line-height: 150%; margin: 0cm 0cm 0pt; mso-list: l0 level1 lfo1; mso-margin-bottom-alt: auto; mso-margin-top-alt: auto; tab-stops: list 36.0pt;"><strong><span style="font-family: "Helvetica","sans-serif"; font-size: 11.5pt; line-height: 150%; mso-fareast-font-family: "Times New Roman";">LET YOUR PROBLEMS OVERWHELM YOU
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focus obsessively on the problems and give keeping them
all your energy<br />
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<li class="MsoNormal" style="color: #505050; line-height: 150%; margin: 0cm 0cm 0pt; mso-list: l0 level1 lfo1; mso-margin-bottom-alt: auto; mso-margin-top-alt: auto; tab-stops: list 36.0pt;"><strong><span style="font-family: "Helvetica","sans-serif"; font-size: 11.5pt; line-height: 150%; mso-fareast-font-family: "Times New Roman";">DO THINGS YOU DON'T LOVE FOR AN
END RESULT YOU DON'T WANT </span></strong><span style="font-family: "Helvetica","sans-serif"; font-size: 11.5pt; line-height: 150%; mso-fareast-font-family: "Times New Roman";">- clear goal setting down the super highway of misery<br />
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<li class="MsoNormal" style="color: #505050; line-height: 150%; margin: 0cm 0cm 0pt; mso-list: l0 level1 lfo1; mso-margin-bottom-alt: auto; mso-margin-top-alt: auto; tab-stops: list 36.0pt;"><strong><span style="font-family: "Helvetica","sans-serif"; font-size: 11.5pt; line-height: 150%; mso-fareast-font-family: "Times New Roman";">STAY IN RELATIONSHIPS THAT
NO LONGER SERVE YOU </span></strong><span style="font-family: "Helvetica","sans-serif"; font-size: 11.5pt; line-height: 150%; mso-fareast-font-family: "Times New Roman";">- surround yourself with energy vampires, critical
people, and folk who want you to stay as you are always<br />
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<li class="MsoNormal" style="color: #505050; line-height: 150%; margin: 0cm 0cm 0pt; mso-list: l0 level1 lfo1; mso-margin-bottom-alt: auto; mso-margin-top-alt: auto; tab-stops: list 36.0pt;"><strong><span style="font-family: "Helvetica","sans-serif"; font-size: 11.5pt; line-height: 150%; mso-fareast-font-family: "Times New Roman";">TRY TO CHANGE OTHERS </span></strong><span style="font-family: "Helvetica","sans-serif"; font-size: 11.5pt; line-height: 150%; mso-fareast-font-family: "Times New Roman";">- it's much easier to
tell others what to do and be a control freak<br />
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<li class="MsoNormal" style="color: #505050; line-height: 150%; margin: 0cm 0cm 0pt; mso-list: l0 level1 lfo1; mso-margin-bottom-alt: auto; mso-margin-top-alt: auto; tab-stops: list 36.0pt;"><strong><span style="font-family: "Helvetica","sans-serif"; font-size: 11.5pt; line-height: 150%; mso-fareast-font-family: "Times New Roman";">TRY TO PLEASE EVERYONE </span></strong><span style="font-family: "Helvetica","sans-serif"; font-size: 11.5pt; line-height: 150%; mso-fareast-font-family: "Times New Roman";">- and please no one in
truth, which then makes you feel guilty, which then makes you try and
please everyone again<br />
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GOALS/OUTCOMES/STATUS/PEOPLE/THINGS </span></strong><span style="font-family: "Helvetica","sans-serif"; font-size: 11.5pt; line-height: 150%; mso-fareast-font-family: "Times New Roman";">- and let them define
all your emotions and who you are <o:p></o:p></span></li>
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Do any of these look familiar to you? If so, it's time to change. What small
change could you make today?<br />
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Need a hand overcoming these?</span>Thelifestudiohttp://www.blogger.com/profile/01833198516102192136noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4456750083411847586.post-70432559530747478782013-09-16T06:03:00.001-07:002013-10-31T10:09:57.157-07:00How 'Thank You' can change a life<br />
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Is that 'Sunday night feeling' returning with the theme tune of Downton Abbey? Are the darker evenings and a craving for carbs slowly bring a sepia into your life?<br />
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<o:p>January resolutions are so last year, September is the real time to take stock of your life, your relationships, your finances, your emotional well being, and anything else that is important to you as the pace of life picks up again as the tan start to fade. </o:p><o:p></o:p><br />
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I want to share with you a heart-warming story that a recent client shared with me. It really touched my heart, brought some warmth, and certainly
got me thinking;<o:p></o:p><br />
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I had worked with *Jane some months before and since then
she had been in touch to say she was exploring fostering children to join her
family of husband and biological daughter aged seven.<o:p></o:p><br />
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*Mia was the first foster child to arrive, a girl, aged
eleven. She had been kicked out of two other placements previously for bad
behaviour and had a heart-breaking story of abandonment. Jane didn’t find her
much of a problem in the first few weeks, and was really enjoying having a new
edition to her family. Inspired by a conversation we had in a session about the
power of gratitude, she had a sudden idea to get a chalk board and put it up in
her kitchen. She decided that whenever she wanted to ‘thank’ any members of the
family for something she would write it on the board. After a few weeks of
doing this, as and when, one day she opened the airing cupboard, a place only
she went to, and there was a yellow sticky note from Mia saying ‘thank you for
making me feel loved and part of a family for the first time in my life’<o:p></o:p></div>
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Now Mia and Jane leave each other notes in the airing
cupboard whenever she can’t say something or is worried about something. Jane
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All it took was a genuine ‘thank you for….’ To change someone’s life,
install trust, change behaviour and create a future. Since then others she has
told have put up boards in their companies, or found other ways of showing
gratitude. Gratitude isn't just for hippies!</div>
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Look what Dr Masaru Emoto found the words 'thank you' did in his famous water experiment.</div>
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Who do you need to thank today, and when was the last time
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Time to stamp your feet, and say 'no more' to excuses, denial and procrastination. Step forward and roll up your sleeves. It's time to take massive action. You will be amazed by the positive impact on your emotional well-being and your body this 21 day Easy Procrastination detox will give you.<br />
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Hands up who have done at least a 2 day detox in 2013? I see people running around drinking green stuff, juicers flying off the shelves, friends jetting off to Thailand to gorge on psyllium husk and fresh air all in the name of cleansing their bodies. They return, bronzed, concave, regular, and two weeks later the croissants and red wine are back.<br />
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It is said that if you want to see what your thoughts were in the past, look at your body now. And if you want to see what your body will be like in the future look at your thoughts today.<br />
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Constipation of the mind is caused by procrastination. All those 'things you need to do', or 'stuff you should do' backs up until the backlog has you trapped. The mind keeps all of those files open, ticking away, until they are dealt with. Its' a bit like when you are using your computer and have every screen you have ever opened minimised at the bottom of the screen. And then no surprise when...crash, it all comes to a halt.<br />
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Many of us have become experts in excuses and denial, the shadow of guilt or fear gets larger, and only when it brings more pain than the avoidance, will we be motivated to take any action. Chances are you will then do just enough to get out of pain, and then the entire cycle begins again.<br />
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<strong>21-DAY EASY PROCRASTINATION DETOX</strong><br />
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<strong>STEP 1</strong> - Write down your intention for this detox. What exactly is it you want to get out of it?'<br />
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<strong>STEP 2</strong> - Write down and ask yourself these two questions<br />
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'What do I need to STOP doing?'<br />
'What do I need to START doing?'<br />
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<strong>STEP 3</strong> - Cut out excuses, even good excuses<br />
Even better, have a detox buddy who can just make an agreed 'cough' sound if they think you are using excuse language. 'I haven't got time' being the biggest culprit. We all have 24hrs in our day.<br />
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<strong>STEP 4</strong> - Each day before you go to bed write down one thing you will do the following day that you have been avoiding. If it seems too big a task to deal with, break it down into small achievable tasks that work towards it. i.e it could be to call someone, or open three of the fifty letters with clear windows you have hidden in a draw. It could be to forgive someone, or say 'no' to somebody.<br />
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Easy right? Go for it...<br />
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Keep me posted on your progress <img alt="Laughing" border="0" src="http://realbuzz4.s3.amazonaws.com/static/js/tinymce.3.5.4.1/jscripts/tiny_mce/plugins/emotions/img/smiley-laughing.gif" title="Laughing" />Thelifestudiohttp://www.blogger.com/profile/01833198516102192136noreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4456750083411847586.post-54680380193911580842013-04-17T04:46:00.003-07:002013-04-17T04:49:09.704-07:00Motivational sheep - 10 ways to avoid a self-help Guru<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;">
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Watching a US reality TV show recently (I know, I know!) I felt the vomit rising up in my throat as a guy with ego infused eyes and a cheesy grin introduces himself as a 'motivational speaker', 'life coach', and 'life strategist' (WTF). He then begins to spout cliche's and rehearsed drivel, which is like catnip to the lost, but won't really change your life past Tuesday. The camera pans round and you see an audience of a few hundred people looking trustfully up at this church less evangelist.<br />
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A life coach???????!!!!!!!!!!!!!! *looks at self in horror<br />
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As I chew the edge of my wooden coffee table to cleanse myself of his imprint, I add a snapshot of him to my mental image bank, to recall when I next need to run up a steep hill, or give birth to a rhinoceros. These narcissistic cuckoo's tell you what to do, and nest in your own lack of self-direction with their pseudo knowledge. The difference between knowledge and wisdom is, knowledge is knowing a tomato is a fruit, wisdom is knowing not to put it in a fruit salad. I have had conversations with many people who, thanks to guru's, are ignoring the reality stop signs in pursuit of someone else's implanted delusions. It's not their fault, they were looking for hope, new skills, and the road to happiness.<br />
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I had coffee with an unknowing victim, what I got was a seminar for one I didn't sign up for. A good man at heart, he had invested a lot of money in courses to help him to 'make a million speaking' or 'live an amazing life doing what I do', he had learnt not to value all the unique things that made him relatable, and human, and had become a puppet. He was detached, emotionally unavailable, further away from finding himself, and helping people was way down his list after Ferrari. The clue is when they talk at you in quotes and slip into a hybrid Anglo/American accent.<br />
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This plague is not to be confused with a heartfelt speaker that has an incredible story to tell where they have achieved something, triumphed over adversity, or royally messed their lives up, and got up again. Not to be confused either with someone who is so passionate about helping people they have turned their life into a living lesson. There are some incredible people who are dedicated to helping you too change your life, Anthony Robbins for example. These people have important recipes for survival and enjoyment of life, seek them out. Let's distinguish them by calling them teachers. When they start to speak, something deep within your soul warms, when the latter speaks you have to watch you don't sprout wool and start to 'baaa'.<br />
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So here is my guide to avoid becoming the sheep of a false shepherd or 'Guru' as they like to call themselves. This includes wanna-be Guru's who dream of being on stage to experience feeling important.<br />
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<li>Guru's begin most of what they say with 'i', a favourite is 'I can make you xyz'</li>
<li>Guru's take 'best friend forever' style photo's of themselves with other Guru's to reinforce your belief in their status</li>
<li>Guru's behaviour off the stage does not mirror the values they talk about on stage</li>
<li>Guru's often should read their own books to take their own advice</li>
<li>Guru's imitate each other and pass off each others stories as their own because they lack any real experience helping individuals to change their lives</li>
<li>Guru's have followers that don't really blink properly and make you feel nervous, or get angry when you ask questions</li>
<li>Guru's have a set of rules, or a program, and get annoyed, or blame your lack of commitment for their failures</li>
<li>Guru's don't really listen in life, they only know how to output</li>
<li>Guru's have forgotten how to talk to people normally, they only do 'seminar mode' i.e asking all the questions, and answering in questions</li>
<li>Guru's have an overinflated sense of self-belief....until they step off the stage and mime their way through life</li>
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11. Guru's need you to believe in them, to believe in themselves<br />
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If you are low on hope and want to get back on the road to happiness find someone wise who will support, and help YOU, to trust YOURSELF, to change YOUR OWN life and create your own resources and solutions.. They come from a place of service and wont be driving a yellow Ferrari, or peddling their lives as a show home.<br />
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Worrying is like a rocking chair, it gives you something to do but it doesn't get you anywhere. We all worry at times, but if your worrying is running you, it's time to get out of that chair. Like Mr Worry are you addicted to worrying?<br />
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In the olden days, when the threat of being eaten by something, or charcoaled by dragon fire (according to Ruben, age 6) us humans were on constant alert for threats. The daily quest for water, food, hatching babies and staying alive was a full-time job. There were no 28 days holiday, duvet days, or sabbaticals to search for the meaning of life back then. Our ancestors legacy is a deeply installed, and hormonally supported blueprint to self-protect and stay alive.<br />
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Forward wind to 2013 and that legacy is active in all of our everyday lives. When faced with any perceived threat our mind and body reacts. The film, TV, advertising, book and gaming industries tap into engage our brains to emotionally react to what is being viewed. Our imaginations are a key portal into the mind and body connection. Imagination doesn't know the difference between an imagined experience and a real one. It tells the body to react for a moment as if the imagined threat was real. Think of a picture or time when you couldn't stop laughing...bet you have just started to giggle. That's the power of the imagination on the mind and body.<br />
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Today the dragons have been substituted by more of an invisible and internal threat, ' a fear of the future' produces anxiety. Anxiety is a mind and body response to an imagined fear in the future. The fear could be that perhaps in the future someone won't like you, or that you will get something very wrong, fail, or that you wont have enough money to live. Either way the message to the mind is that there is something significantly painful coming at you like a high speed train from the future. You can't avoid the future.<br />
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We all get nervous when stepping out of our comfort zone doing something new, or when something is demanded from us that we believe we lack the skill or experience for. If your thoughts, anxieties, or fears are impacting your quality of life, or you are constantly trying to avoid your fears by over-controlling your life - <br />
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Take the Anxiety test<br />
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Choose the one description for each item that best describes how many days you have been bothered by each of the following over the past 2 weeks<br />
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None<o:p></o:p></div>
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Several<o:p></o:p></div>
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7 or more<o:p></o:p></div>
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Nearly Every day<o:p></o:p></div>
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Feeling Nervous, anxious or on edge<o:p></o:p></div>
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Unable to stop worrying<o:p></o:p></div>
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<o:p> </o:p></div>
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<o:p> </o:p></div>
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Worrying too much about different things<o:p></o:p></div>
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Problems relaxing<o:p></o:p></div>
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Feeling restless or unable to sit still<o:p></o:p></div>
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Feeling irritable or easily annoyed<o:p></o:p></div>
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Being afraid that something awful might happen<o:p></o:p></div>
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<o:p>Total scores for each question</o:p></div>
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<li><o:p>Nearly every day = 3</o:p></li>
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<o:p>Total score _______________________</o:p><br />
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<li><o:p>A total score of 5-9 suggests mild anxiety</o:p></li>
<li>A total score of 10 + suggests moderate to severe anxiety</li>
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If anxiety is holding you back in your life, stop coping with it, there is so much that can be done to overcome it and get your freedom back. Talk to someone, you will be amazed at how many people suffer with anxiety. Speak to your GP about CBT (cognitive behavioural therapy) or talk to me about the amazing Thought Pattern Management system. Time to turn your Mr Worry into Mr Happy.<br />
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<br />Thelifestudiohttp://www.blogger.com/profile/01833198516102192136noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4456750083411847586.post-5226866317122911972013-01-14T03:28:00.001-08:002013-04-11T09:11:58.434-07:002 out of 5 people unhappy with their careerThat's a lot of hours doing something you don't enjoy. All relationships go through some tough times, and not everyone adapts to and embraces change in a positive way. The impact of forcing yourself to be somewhere you hate for the long-term is damaging to your relationships, family life, and most critically your health. The latter, often, and sadly it's the last warning flag.<br />
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<strong>'In 2009/2010 an estimated 9.8 million working days were lost through
work-related stress. On average each person suffering from work-related stress
took an estimated 22.6 days off - HSE'</strong><br />
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Some extracts from a recent interview I did on the subject:<br />
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* If someone is looking to change careers in 2013, what tips
could you give them to help them build confidence/make a change?</div>
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<span style="color: #1f497d; mso-fareast-font-family: "Times New Roman";"><span style="mso-list: Ignore;">1.<span style="font-size-adjust: none; font-stretch: normal; font: 7pt/normal "Times New Roman";">
</span></span></span><span style="color: #1f497d;">Decide ‘by when’ do
you want to be in your new career. (even if you don’t know what it is, or how
you can do it)<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="color: #1f497d; mso-fareast-font-family: "Times New Roman";"><span style="mso-list: Ignore;">2.<span style="font-size-adjust: none; font-stretch: normal; font: 7pt/normal "Times New Roman";">
</span></span></span><span style="color: #1f497d;">Commit to taking
action – be in the driving seat, don’t wait until you are pushed out<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="color: #1f497d; mso-fareast-font-family: "Times New Roman";"><span style="mso-list: Ignore;">3.<span style="font-size-adjust: none; font-stretch: normal; font: 7pt/normal "Times New Roman";">
</span></span></span><span style="color: #1f497d;">Embrace all change
as positive. If you don’t like it change it again.<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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</span></span></span><span style="color: #1f497d;">When you meet
self-doubts ask yourself ‘if I wasn’t afraid, what would I do’. Listen to your
answer.<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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</span></span></span><span style="color: #1f497d;">Explore your
talents. You won’t see your hidden talents because you do them naturally. Ask
others around you for feedback about what you would be really good at?<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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</span></span></span><span style="color: #1f497d;">When someone is
unhappy they can try and change their job, car, relationship etc instead of changing
themselves. Make sure that you are changing career for the right reasons.</span></div>
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* Why do you think some people get 'stuck' in a career rut?</div>
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<span style="color: #1f497d; font-family: "Calibri","sans-serif"; font-size: 11pt;">Most people wait until the pain of not changing is unbearable,
and then the need to get out of pain motivates them to overcome their fear of
change. When you have career, family, relationship goals you can avoid this
kind of constipation.</span></div>
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* Is setting goals/keeping a to do list important for development?</div>
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<span style="color: #1f497d; font-family: "Calibri","sans-serif"; font-size: 11pt;">More important to write the goal down and picture yourself achieving
that goal. Then break the goal down into smaller, achievable steps to work
towards.</span></div>
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* If someone wants to work towards promotion, are there any tips you could give
them?</div>
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<span style="color: #1f497d; font-family: "Calibri","sans-serif"; font-size: 11pt;">Ask their line manager what they would need to be doing for that
job to be theirs. Ask ‘what do I need to do more of, or less of, and what
strengths do I currently have that would be an asset to that role. Find out if
there are any skills that you need to acquire. Step your game up and be
consistent.</span></div>
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* If someone is feeling frustrated/confused about their career direction, what
would you suggest they do?<span style="color: #1f497d;"><o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="color: #1f497d; font-family: "Calibri","sans-serif"; font-size: 11pt;">Stop wasting time moaning, instead talk about what the problem
really is to key people and friends. Decide what you really want to do.
Secretly most people know, but they have buried it because they see their dream
job as impossible or see too many barriers. Remember the man who says he can,
and the man who says he can’t are both right. If your passion for your career
can’t be reignited create an exit plan immediately, life is too short to spend
9 hours a day feeling unhappy. There are infinite choices, you just have to
create them. Build your self-confidence in your abilities by doing some
activities that are out of your comfort zon</span></div>
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Visit this link for more info and resources: <a href="http://www.cv-surgeon.co.uk/blog/how-to-make-career-changes-in-the-new-year">How to Make Career Changes in the New Year</a><br />
<br />Thelifestudiohttp://www.blogger.com/profile/01833198516102192136noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4456750083411847586.post-12730437451683550462013-01-02T03:49:00.000-08:002013-04-11T09:13:54.492-07:00January; The Hare and the Tortoise<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;">
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Did you stick two fingers up to 2012, or welcome 2013 as just another day? New Year is pimped as a time for reflection and a portal for binging on good health. The diet and fitness industries are wringing their greedy hands with glee and looking forward to counting your hard earned bank notes this month. After a December of excess, most people will attempt something to address the balance. By February a huge percentage will have abandoned their regimes in favour of 'normal life'. There is nothing more boring to be around than a January martyr giving you a blow-by-blow account of what they have turned down, and how many pounds they have lost or put on that hour. Yawn!<br />
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Over the past twenty years there has been a cultural epidemic of a very unhealthy mindset 'all or nothing'. You are either fat or thin, beautiful or ugly, rich or poor, going to the gym lots or never going, too full or starving, too busy or bored, stressed or unmotivated, good or bad, can sing or can't, happy or sad..and the list goes on. We are obsessed with squeezing people into box A or B.<br />
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The mind meta program 'all or nothing' is a building block evident in many mental illnesses, anorexia, addictions, OCD, bi-polar, to name a few. It prevents someone from being able to perceive any kind of balance, place C, no matter how hard you point at it.<br />
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A recent client was too afraid to start a business she was clearly skilled enough to deliver because she was afraid that she would fail, so she did nothing instead and became depressed. And there it is again succeed or fail.<br />
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<em>Once upon a time there was a hare who, boasting how he could run faster than anyone else, was forever teasing tortoise for its slowness. Then one day, the irate tortoise answered back: “Who do you think you are? There’s no denying you’re swift, but even you can be beaten!” The hare squealed with laughter.</em><br />
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<em>“Beaten in a race? By whom? Not you, surely! I bet there’s nobody in the world that can win against me, I’m so speedy. Now, why don’t you try?”</em><br />
<em>Annoyed by such bragging, the tortoise accepted the challenge. A course was planned, and the next day at dawn they stood at the starting line. The hare yawned sleepily as the meek tortoise trudged slowly off. When the hare saw how painfully slow his rival was, he decided, half asleep on his feet, to have a quick nap. “Take your time!” he said. “I’ll have forty winks and catch up with you in a minute.”</em><br />
<em>The hare woke with a start from a fitful sleep and gazed round, looking for the tortoise. But the creature was only a short distance away, having barely covered a third of the course. Breathing a sigh of relief, the hare decided he might as well have breakfast too, and off he went to munch some cabbages he had noticed in a nearby field. But the heavy meal and the hot sun made his eyelids droop. With a careless glance at the tortoise, now halfway along the course, he decided to have another snooze before flashing past the winning post. And smiling at the thought of the look on the tortoise’s face when it saw the hare speed by, he fell fast asleep and was soon snoring happily. The sun started to sink, below the horizon, and the tortoise, who had been plodding towards the winning post since morning, was scarcely a yard from the finish. At that very point, the hare woke with a jolt. He could see the tortoise a speck in the distance and away he dashed. He leapt and bounded at a great rate, his tongue lolling, and gasping for breath. Just a little more and he’d be first at the finish. But the hare’s last leap was just too late, for the tortoise had beaten him to the winning post. Poor hare! Tired and in disgrace, he slumped down beside the tortoise who was silently smiling at him.</em><br />
<em>“Slowly does it every time!” he said.</em><br />
Aesop Fables<br />
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I'm currently taking session bookings for knackered Hare's<br />
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Wishing you a very happy and balanced 2013<br />
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<br />Thelifestudiohttp://www.blogger.com/profile/01833198516102192136noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4456750083411847586.post-17550189460119446782012-11-09T02:50:00.000-08:002013-04-11T09:16:07.266-07:00How stressed are you? Take the test<o:p></o:p><br />
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<span style="color: black;">Unlike pressure, <strong>stress is never good for you</strong> and <strong>never a positive thing</strong>. </span><span style="color: black;">Stress is a condition or feeling experienced when a person perceives that the demands placed on them exceed the resources the individual has available.</span> The symptoms of stress significantly affect both your mind and body. If you scored high, imagine how much better you would feel and look without it.</div>
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<b style="mso-bidi-font-weight: normal;"><o:p>Take the test: </o:p></b><br />
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<b style="mso-bidi-font-weight: normal;">On a scale of 1-10 how stressed are you now? <span style="mso-tab-count: 1;"> </span></b><b style="mso-bidi-font-weight: normal;"><span style="font-size: 10pt;">*10 being high</span><o:p></o:p></b><br />
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<span style="color: black;"><strong>1-4 <span style="mso-tab-count: 1;"> </span>Share your secret!<o:p></o:p></strong></span></div>
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<span style="color: black;"><strong>5-8 <span style="mso-tab-count: 1;"> </span>Your adrenal
systems are over active. You will be showing symptoms of stress. Important
notice -take time to relax<o:p></o:p></strong></span></div>
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<span style="color: black;"><strong>8+<span style="mso-tab-count: 1;"> </span>Stop
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Symptoms of stress</div>
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irritability<o:p></o:p></li>
<li class="MsoNormal" style="margin: 0cm 0cm 0pt; mso-list: l0 level1 lfo1; tab-stops: list 36.0pt;">Heightened
sensitivity to criticism<o:p></o:p></li>
<li class="MsoNormal" style="margin: 0cm 0cm 0pt; mso-list: l0 level1 lfo1; tab-stops: list 36.0pt;">Signs
of tension i.e. nail biting<o:p></o:p></li>
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getting to sleep/over sleeping<o:p></o:p></li>
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and smoking more<o:p></o:p></li>
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<li class="MsoNormal" style="margin: 0cm 0cm 0pt; mso-list: l0 level1 lfo1; tab-stops: list 36.0pt;">Loss
of concentration<o:p></o:p></li>
<li class="MsoNormal" style="margin: 0cm 0cm 0pt; mso-list: l0 level1 lfo1; tab-stops: list 36.0pt;">Fearful
of future</li>
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<li class="MsoNormal" style="margin: 0cm 0cm 0pt; mso-list: l0 level1 lfo1; tab-stops: list 36.0pt;">Panic Attacks</li>
<li class="MsoNormal" style="margin: 0cm 0cm 0pt; mso-list: l0 level1 lfo1; tab-stops: list 36.0pt;">Anger</li>
<li class="MsoNormal" style="margin: 0cm 0cm 0pt; mso-list: l0 level1 lfo1; tab-stops: list 36.0pt;">Depression</li>
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<b style="mso-bidi-font-weight: normal;">SAY ‘NO’ TO STRESS -
10 TOP TIPS TO BECOMING STRESS FREE<o:p></o:p></b></div>
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Honest – Listen and trust your instincts. Identify what is really causing
you to feel stressed? It's never what you think it is. What’s stopping you from making the changes you know
you need to make? Stop making excuses.<o:p></o:p></li>
<li class="MsoNormal" style="margin: 0cm 0cm 0pt; mso-list: l0 level1 lfo1; tab-stops: list 36.0pt;">Slow
Down – do one thing at a time and finish it<o:p></o:p></li>
<li class="MsoNormal" style="margin: 0cm 0cm 0pt; mso-list: l0 level1 lfo1; tab-stops: list 36.0pt;">What
makes you happy? – do more of it<o:p></o:p></li>
<li class="MsoNormal" style="margin: 0cm 0cm 0pt; mso-list: l0 level1 lfo1; tab-stops: list 36.0pt;">Be
thankful- what are you thankful for in life? List 20 things<o:p></o:p></li>
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kind – to yourself. Check your self-talk, you wouldn’t be that hard on
anyone else would you?<o:p></o:p></li>
<li class="MsoNormal" style="margin: 0cm 0cm 0pt; mso-list: l0 level1 lfo1; tab-stops: list 36.0pt;">Simplify
your life – let go of clutter, dramas, and people pleasing <o:p></o:p></li>
<li class="MsoNormal" style="margin: 0cm 0cm 0pt; mso-list: l0 level1 lfo1; tab-stops: list 36.0pt;">Ask
for & Accept practical/emotional help – people like to help<o:p></o:p></li>
<li class="MsoNormal" style="margin: 0cm 0cm 0pt; mso-list: l0 level1 lfo1; tab-stops: list 36.0pt;">Body
Care – Get the right fuel into your body. There are links between vitamin
deficiencies, dehydration and high stress levels.<o:p></o:p></li>
<li class="MsoNormal" style="margin: 0cm 0cm 0pt; mso-list: l0 level1 lfo1; tab-stops: list 36.0pt;">Move
it – dance, skip, break-dance, whatever floats your boat. Unused energy
turns into negative, lethargic energy and can turn against you.<o:p></o:p></li>
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– park your brain, breath in slowly through your nose… breath out slowly
through your mouth. Just 5 mins sitting with a quiet mind will put a
spring in your step even when chaos surrounds you.<o:p></o:p></li>
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If you or someone you know is stuck with stress or suffering
stress related illnesses, there are so many amazing options to help you and
your brain change the way you feel, even if you don't feel you can change the situation.<br />
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<strong>Time to say 'NO' to stress</strong>Thelifestudiohttp://www.blogger.com/profile/01833198516102192136noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4456750083411847586.post-17410355014838319212012-08-07T06:52:00.001-07:002013-04-11T09:17:58.186-07:00Here is your assignment....<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;">
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1. YOU WILL RECEIVE A BODY<br />
you may like it you may not, but it will be yours for the entire period of your time here<br />
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2. YOU WILL LEARN LESSONS<br />
You are enrolled in a full-time informal school called life. Each day in this school you will have the opportunity to learn lessons. You may like the lessons or think them irrelevant and stupid<br />
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3. THERE ARE NO MISTAKES. ONLY LESSONS<br />
Growth is a process of trial and error and experimentation. The 'failed' experiments are as much a part of the process as the experiments that work<br />
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4. A LESSON IS REPEATED UNTIL IT IS LEARNED<br />
A lesson will be presented to you in various forms until you have learned it, then you can go onto the next lesson<br />
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5. LEARNING LESSONS DOES NOT END<br />
There is no part of life that does not contain its lessons. If you are alive their are lessons to be learned<br />
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6. "THERE" IS NO BETTER THAN "HERE"<br />
When your "there" has become "here", you will simply obtain another "there" that will again look better than "here"<br />
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7. OTHERS ARE MERELY MIRRORS OF YOU<br />
You cannot love of hate something about another person unless it reflects to you something you love or hate about yourself<br />
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8. WHAT YOU MAKE OF YOUR LIFE IS UP TO YOU<br />
You have all the tools and resources you need, what you do with them is up to you. The choice is yours<br />
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9. THE ANSWERS LIE INSIDE YOU<br />
The answers to life's questions lie inside you. All you need to do is look, listen and trust<br />
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10. WHETHER YOU THINK YOU CAN OR CAN'T, IN EITHER CASE YOU'LL BE RIGHT<br />
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THINK ABOUT IT.......Thelifestudiohttp://www.blogger.com/profile/01833198516102192136noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4456750083411847586.post-21768741165780773112012-05-10T06:54:00.001-07:002012-05-10T06:54:48.763-07:00Gut Instincts, friend or foe?<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;">
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Do you always trust your instincts? Some of the most stressed and anxious clients I've worked with have had one major thing in common. They ignore their gut instincts. Some can't even hear their instincts anymore they have turned up the dial on the chatter in their head so high it drowns them out. They create a life full of distractions, so there is never a moments silence for the instincts to get through with their message. Others hear their instincts loud and clear, but are afraid to trust themselves. The theory is that 'gut instinct' is the intelligence of the unconcious mind.<br />
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Stress is created when the gut says 'no' and the head says 'yes', or when the gut says 'yes' and the head says 'no'. This battle creates an inner conflict which causes you disharmony.<br />
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Trusting my gut instincts has actually saved my life. I had already had one malignant tumour removed, and my gut was telling me that the tiny freckle appearing on my left side wasn't right. Two consultants looked at it thoroughly, and said it was fine. My instincts were literally screaming at me 'this is not fine'. This gave me the confidence to go back again unhappy about their opinion. After a biopsy it was confirmed, it was indeed another potentially deadly tumour. Because it was caught early, I had an excellent prognosis. This just proved to me that even listening to my gut over expert opinion is important.<br />
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Of course it isn't always quite so straight forward. A friend was recently telling me that she felt her boyfriend was lying to her about working away for some of the weekend and not coming back until Saturday evening. (he often worked away in the week) 'something just doesn't feel right' she said. This led her to become very upset at the conclusion that he was cheating on her. It turned out that her instincts were indeed right, he did lie to her about working away for the weekend. After tears and MI6 style questioning he finally admitted that he had wanted to play golf with his colleagues on the Saturday, instead of the planned family day, and felt it would be easier to just say he was working. Her instincts had acurrately detected a lie, but she had convinced herself that he was cheating, when in fact he just lacked balls. (forgive the pun!)<br />
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How do you start trusting your instincts?<br />
1) Like any good relationship, spend time alone listening<br />
2) If it argues with you it is not your gut instinct it's your head<br />
3) Develop trust by going with your intuition more and more<br />
4) Be confident in following your instincts, even if the rest of the world is going the opposite way<br />
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FOLLOWING YOUR INSTINCTS + BALLS = A GREAT LIFE<br />
<br />Thelifestudiohttp://www.blogger.com/profile/01833198516102192136noreply@blogger.com2tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4456750083411847586.post-42828763844592155252012-04-04T03:37:00.001-07:002012-04-04T03:37:27.890-07:00Hands Up for Panic Buying<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;">
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Come on, hands up! Who queued up for petrol over the past week like a lemming?<br />
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Did you pack sandwiches and make it an outing, or sit fuming at the inconvenience? <br />
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Maybe, like me, you saw that the gauge on your dashboard was just under half a tank, saw the queues building, the updates on facebook, and after passing three garages resembling a car park, decided to seek fuel and fill up so you could relax for the next week. Some of you (you know who you are) drove around on faith and fumes, ignoring the amber light on the dashboard, laughing in the bored faces of those of us that succumbed to the flash mob fuel queue. And some of you (I don't know who you are) were so desperate you stole fuel from others.<br />
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All of this because we believed there was a possibility of a lack of fuel. The reality was there was plenty. It was only our belief that fuelled the lack of fuel. Look at the Northern Rock story. The belief that there was a lack of money, caused a panic, and the fear manifested into a very real lack of money and the downfall of a bank.<br />
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The point is, when we believe there is a potential lack, we all behave in different and strange ways. A collective belief is the most powerful entity. Wars have been started and won, lives lost, and lives saved, people's lives changed and others destroyed.<br />
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So how might someone behave if they believe they have a lack of love or weren't good enough? What would they most likely be creating in their lives?Thelifestudiohttp://www.blogger.com/profile/01833198516102192136noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4456750083411847586.post-43352528706424143732012-01-12T09:47:00.000-08:002012-01-12T09:47:48.847-08:00Ode to 2011<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;">
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I don't know about you, but 2011 was a rather constipated year for me. I relentlessly invented, fearlessly tried new ideas, and let go of and binned anything that no longer served me. In a fury of consistent shovelling I only ever paused to check if anything was being produced at the other end. Nada! Not even a pellet.<br />
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So 2012 is all about movement and flow for me, and so far I can feel it coming.....<br />
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Captain..'we're gonna need a bigger boat'<br />
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<strong>Happy 2012 all, welcome aboard</strong>. Thelifestudiohttp://www.blogger.com/profile/01833198516102192136noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4456750083411847586.post-68947366028934373242011-10-12T04:20:00.000-07:002013-04-11T09:19:33.537-07:00X Factor Rehab<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;">
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Between the USA show and the UK show, last week, I spent
more hours watching X Factor than I did, <o:p></o:p>
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1) going to the gym <o:p></o:p></div>
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2) bathing <o:p></o:p></div>
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3) seeing friends (watching X factor with friends doesn’t
count!)<o:p></o:p></div>
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By the time the finals come and go I will have spent a staggering
54 hours watching, and been subjected to around 144 adverts.(I hear you
laughing smug sky+ owners!) That’s a serious investment. Even on minimum wage I
would be paid £328.32 for my time. So what exactly am I getting in return for
my investment? Entertainment? Relaxation? Improved relationships? Time with
Gary Barlow?<o:p></o:p></div>
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Um….<o:p></o:p></div>
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When I look at how some of my clients are spending their
time, they are always gob smacked. A client last week worked out how many hours
they had invested the previous four weeks worrying. The answer was 168!! On
minimum wage again, if she was being paid for worrying she could put away a
tidy sum of £1021.44. Another business man worked out how many hours he had
been angry about being overlooked and bullied on a project. This was affecting
his sleep, his quality of relationships with his family, and his Sunday nights.<o:p></o:p></div>
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What are your negative investments costing you?<o:p></o:p><br />
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<o:p>PS. Janet to win!</o:p></div>
Thelifestudiohttp://www.blogger.com/profile/01833198516102192136noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4456750083411847586.post-46896893958096966682011-08-31T08:27:00.000-07:002011-08-31T08:27:04.371-07:008 Tips to Walk the Talk in Any Situation<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjlvT2e3aajVmemhHqC-9Dbpq6AuQmNfI4fL6DFUK3nv9bAAXHGSeUiGpU4jksxvbESvA0iZxhkGBJXw7dal2szL_NNmFmJgJ9I-nsgKjR5P6ifOt5dM9lxC0TBf7H2pvBk_WDbSeOaBpn2/s1600/david+brent.png" imageanchor="1" style="clear: left; float: left; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjlvT2e3aajVmemhHqC-9Dbpq6AuQmNfI4fL6DFUK3nv9bAAXHGSeUiGpU4jksxvbESvA0iZxhkGBJXw7dal2szL_NNmFmJgJ9I-nsgKjR5P6ifOt5dM9lxC0TBf7H2pvBk_WDbSeOaBpn2/s1600/david+brent.png" /></a></div>Who do you picture when you think of a confident person? Alan Sugar, Richard Branson, Oprah Winfrey, someone closer to home, or someone more deluded like David Brent perhaps. Whoever it is we all have an idea of what confidence is, and use that to measure whether we have it or not. Confidence in who you are, and what you do has never been more essential, especially if you are a business leader. It takes confidence to inspire the people who depend on you.<br />
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Why is genuine confidence important?<br />
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Confidence demonstrates that you are trustworthy, resourceful, knowledgeable and a good bet to be a safe ship in a rocky harbour based on our primitive purpose to survive.<br />
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And confidence is not...<br />
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David Brent, being the loudest, deluding people, taking risks that harm others or self, dismissing others ideas, aggression, relentlessly telling people you are the greatest or over compensating arrogance.<br />
For many people their perception of confidence is the latter, and therefore no wonder they subconsciously try to avoid appearing too confident. People organically like people who are like them; it is a basic requirement for human social interaction. So if confidence is ultimately about trust and being capable check out these tips to revolutionise yours<br />
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1) Smile - Yep easy right. So why do most people dilute their smiles to appear more professional? A smile is your personal and business shop front. Not smiling is the equivalent of a 'not today' sign.<br />
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2) Passion - Passion for what you do cannot be faked (think recent politicians). Create passion in place of unconfidence when facing new situations. Passion is infectious and unforgettable<br />
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3) Practice - Prepare an elevator style (pretentious way of saying 1 min intro) speech so that you always have a confident intro for who you are, and what you do in your minds back pocket. You will also put others at ease by leading the conversation.<br />
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4) Ask questions - The person asking the questions always controls the conversation. Just don't tell my clients! Show interest in others by asking questions about them.<br />
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5) First impressions - Focus on making a good impression, words are only 7% of your communication, 38% is voice tone and 55% is your body language.<br />
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6) Certainty - we all like a balance of certainty and uncertainty in our lives. Decide what balance is right for you is it 60% certainty and 40% uncertainty? or a you a higher risk taker with an optimum 50/50. There is no right or wrong, just what suits you best. Understanding this will help to improve how you view new situations, which will increase your confidence.<br />
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7) Avoid introducing yourself and listing your weaknesses - 'Hi, I'm Dan, I'm not very good at this.'<br />
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8) Labels - Check your labels. How do you know 'that' feeling means you are feeling unconfident? It might actually mean that you are just experiencing something new.<br />
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<strong>'Confidence is the art of making others feel confident in your presence'</strong><br />
Thelifestudiohttp://www.blogger.com/profile/01833198516102192136noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4456750083411847586.post-10317483882534134072011-08-15T09:10:00.000-07:002011-08-15T09:10:49.671-07:00To Do or to Don't?<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhpQZBK9GkXQZSeA2SSjgarpW4GdDaaZZrRqk1Sq6NMru1O7r6wBUvYETwbZiBE2S2kvb88FJWSEcK6sC4EXB5zS6fUf98sjuqMA51wn_eyoI2wdVDiUCeFzEXJYmFyN9N8pCuEEA6JcHEe/s1600/Things+to+do.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="clear: left; cssfloat: left; float: left; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" height="240" naa="true" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhpQZBK9GkXQZSeA2SSjgarpW4GdDaaZZrRqk1Sq6NMru1O7r6wBUvYETwbZiBE2S2kvb88FJWSEcK6sC4EXB5zS6fUf98sjuqMA51wn_eyoI2wdVDiUCeFzEXJYmFyN9N8pCuEEA6JcHEe/s320/Things+to+do.jpg" width="320" /></a></div>What does your to-do list say about you – are you a ditherer or a sensible planner? Dreamer or a doer? Explore the meaning behind some of our scribbles to ourselves.<br />
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Ever wondered what one of the Queen's to-do lists might look like? Perhaps we would find a vertical list written in fountain pen: text Obama, walk dogs, reign longer than Queen Victoria, hair appointment, phone William, buy birthday card, write apology letter on behalf of Philip, call palace window cleaner and a tiara doodle at the side of the page! <br />
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A to-do list is a window into the private world of someone. A scribbled list on a torn off piece of paper, or the back of an envelope provides an honest snapshot into our real lives. It reveals both our anxieties and our goals, how we manage our time, and highlights what we are avoiding in life. Today we need lists more than ever, but how many lists are too many lists? How many lists have you made recently about what you have to do, rather than what you want to do? If you have lists about lists than maybe it's time to create a to-don't list instead.<br />
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An old flatmate of mine was a list fanatic. She would pack into a day so much I began to question if she had somehow discovered a magic way of having 30 hrs in a day. She would always be running around with an old white envelope in her hand, ticking her way through a long list of tasks. She was constantly in a whirlwind of doing. I was the polar opposite at the time, stuck in a becalming of thinking. Lists to me were still an enigma back then. She decided to explore opening a sandwich shop. Every evening she would sit at the kitchen table with a blank A5 piece of paper, chewing the pen lid as she thought excitedly about the many sandwich fillings she would offer in her shop. These lists read more like a shopping list: bacon, avocado, chicken, cheese, ham etc, all the way to the bottom of the page. Each night she would start again. She moved on to another project quite soon after, for the next two years I would find random sheets of paper with bacon, avocado, cheese written on it. We still chuckle about it now. <br />
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Your lists should be helping you to explore possibilities and acting as memory support. There is a very fine balance between thinking and doing. It's a ballet of discipline and dance. Too much thinking can prevent someone moving forward in his or her life, they get stuck in a cycle of thinking. Next time you ask someone to do something and they reply 'I'm thinking about it?' they probably don't know how to do part of the task they are putting off, there is a block. They get stuck there sometimes for years, or avoid it until the 'not doing it' causes enough pain. Too much doing, can sometimes create a busy fool bingeing on small chores. Without thought and defined purpose, the doer has to feed their sense of achievement with doing. <br />
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The brain loves an orderly list. The direction helps the brain to tidy up information hanging around in its in-tray waiting for further instruction from you. Once filed, that stressful feeling that things are getting on top of us reduces. Our list habits show electronically too. If you are one of those people that have many screens open at the same time, flicking from one to another and working simultaneously on different projects, you may want to consider thinking through what you are working on and completing one at a time. You will feel so much more relaxed for it.<br />
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Holocaust survivor and psychiatrist Victor Frankl was very aware of the relationship between our wellbeing and our ability to get things done. He believed that putting unpleasant jobs at the top of the list was the only way to attack them. Your lists should be helping you to control the chaos, make sure they are not controlling you. Lists do point to an unhealthy mental state when they become a tool to satisfy a need for excessive control. But for those that get stressed at the mere thought of writing a list, this can indicate that you perhaps need to look at some of the benefits that embracing a list habit will bring.<br />
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Make sure that you give yourself a reward for achieving your lists, particularly if you have dealt with some of those unpleasant jobs. Sometimes just getting everything ticked of can feel like an achievement, the truth is most people will focus on what they haven't achieved and berate themselves. This then sets up the brain with resistance next time it meets a 'tough things to-do' list. Wouldn't we all try to avoid a telling off? <br />
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Writing things down is very important for a clear mind. When I ask clients if they have written a 5-year plan they frequently tap their heads and tell me 'kind of, it's all in here.' Help yourself to get clarity, write it down. A habit shared with me recently by a very successful client was that before he goes to sleep each night he writes down seven ideas for the next day. It means he sleeps well and can start the next day with focus. <br />
Help your mind to be clear, and make sure that you aren't operating at the cost of spontaneity. Life is a constant to-do list, its up to us to create what goes on the list, and choose where it takes us.<br />
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<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEizUzAqr28IBJW3kTIk2uZmqQiS6mD9maxXaXPlMUOP2AgjNhKLKY3ANW0updZ2PyTVqSNLD2jH8Txm0AmPWpcyVmSaR0xf1muEu1gMzsTzN9SeHlxWXqIrt9C-T2loZNwAQLGN-mDBf6P3/s1600/busy_person.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="clear: right; cssfloat: right; float: right; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-left: 1em;"><img border="0" height="320" naa="true" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEizUzAqr28IBJW3kTIk2uZmqQiS6mD9maxXaXPlMUOP2AgjNhKLKY3ANW0updZ2PyTVqSNLD2jH8Txm0AmPWpcyVmSaR0xf1muEu1gMzsTzN9SeHlxWXqIrt9C-T2loZNwAQLGN-mDBf6P3/s320/busy_person.jpg" width="320" /></a></div><strong><span style="color: orange; font-size: x-large;"><u>The List of Lists</u> </span></strong><br />
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<div style="text-align: left;"><span style="color: blue; font-size: large;">THINKING LISTS</span> <span style="color: lime; font-size: large;"> </span></div><div style="text-align: left;"><br />
</div><div style="text-align: left;">20 ideas to help me… </div><div style="text-align: left;">My ideal partner </div><div style="text-align: left;">How to solve... </div><div style="text-align: left;">New Years Goals </div><div style="text-align: justify;">Things I want to achieve </div><div style="text-align: left;">Thoughts to remove from my head </div><div style="text-align: left;">Anxieties to go </div><div style="text-align: left;">5 year plan Finances </div><div style="text-align: left;">Pros and cons </div><div style="text-align: left;">Midnight inspiration</div><div style="text-align: left;"><br />
</div><div style="text-align: left;"><span style="color: lime; font-size: large;">DOING LISTS</span></div><div style="text-align: left;"><br />
</div><div style="text-align: left;">Itinerary</div><div style="text-align: left;">Reminders</div><div style="text-align: left;">Things to do</div><div style="text-align: left;">Where to go</div><div style="text-align: left;">Event Planning</div><div style="text-align: left;">Table Plans</div><div style="text-align: left;">Shopping Lists</div><div style="text-align: left;">Finances Incoming/Outgoing</div><div style="text-align: left;">Chores</div><div style="text-align: left;">Planning </div><br />
<span style="color: red; font-size: large;">TO DON'T LIST</span><br />
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Things to stop doing! Rehab for list bingers, control freaks or people that are time poor.<br />
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<span style="color: purple; font-size: large;">TOO HARD FOR NOW LIST</span><br />
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Anything that you don't want to deal with right now. It's very important to set a date to come back to review the task. Just leaving it in the abyss will not create a peaceful mind. Create a 'thinking' list to explore a solution i/e 20 ideas to help me solve xyz.Thelifestudiohttp://www.blogger.com/profile/01833198516102192136noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4456750083411847586.post-62188952457266793502011-08-01T04:31:00.000-07:002011-08-01T07:01:44.151-07:00Dial one for a human<a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEiG6oc38KmoQh2meuUBzI6_ibRB9f9Lur6e00SEaLaviuHk1f07qk30szwOGsUOuzNiLntbQy9-Mwc5n9_abbYhStYyfUGUaCeLOnqRFMzGNTXD2QTMPlnxxjcrKAqpZUx9cg2e1NVU-7NV/s1600/Annoying+computer.jpg"><img style="MARGIN: 0px 10px 10px 0px; WIDTH: 266px; FLOAT: left; HEIGHT: 190px; CURSOR: hand" id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5635881401005719666" border="0" alt="" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEiG6oc38KmoQh2meuUBzI6_ibRB9f9Lur6e00SEaLaviuHk1f07qk30szwOGsUOuzNiLntbQy9-Mwc5n9_abbYhStYyfUGUaCeLOnqRFMzGNTXD2QTMPlnxxjcrKAqpZUx9cg2e1NVU-7NV/s320/Annoying+computer.jpg" /></a><br /><br /><br /><div>As the revolution of technology constantly upgrades our operational lives, what is the long-term cost of digitally replacing some of our most primitive human requirements?<br /><br />Call any company that you have trusted with your hard earned money, your heating, your health or your entertainment and the chances are when you want to contact them outside of a digital interaction you will still get to speak to a flaming computer! Grrrr. Computers are great for filtering departments, but there are some clear times when you just need to speak to someone.<br /><br />I am far from a technophobe, but as someone who understands a fair bit about humans, and also has been a human since 1972, there is a lot that just isn't working for me. I want to speak to someone about my money, I want them to acknowledge me first, not screen me first. My life very often can't be condensed into five numerical choices. Computers are great for helping us with process and computation, or for making the world smaller and more accessible. My life is greatly improved from a one button click access to information in many different ways, but I have a real concern that we are losing some of our human intelligence in ways that will only cause us huge difficulties further down the line.</div><br /><div>Focusing on a screen for lengths of time weakens the brains ability to solve emotional problems. This can cause people to feel stuck and frustrated, a clear highway to stress. With speedy access to trillions of terabytes of information our capacity for taking action with it is dwindling. Is technology slowly eating away at our self-direction? Our children's children will probably never experience the self-esteem that can be established by driving around with only their gut instinct for directions and getting to the right place by the map of self-trust. You can fill your head and time with every online distraction and pleasure imaginable, but it will not fill the gap left by a broken family unit or loneliness<br /><br />There is one function that a computer cannot replace in any way and that is rapport. Rapport is the most important feature of unconscious human interaction. It's a way of our body, mind and souls saying to one another 'I see you and respect you'. In the presence of true rapport, anything is possible. Without it children's brains don't develop properly so that has to also have an impact on us grown up children too.</div><br /><div><br />Our human relationships and our ability to build relationships could become the cost of technology. At what point has the train gone past the station? This maps over very obviously into business. If you are not acknowledging your customers core values, they will leg it at the first sign of a bigger box of trinkets. If you are not building REAL relationships with your customers they will jump ship when someone enters the room that really gets the customers needs and listens to them. If you are dictating your customer needs, they will run away when they encounter someone that makes them feel significant just as they are.<br /><br />If you don't know the story of David v Goliath here's a quick snapshot. David is a small, regular, all round good-guy. Goliath is 9-¾ ft well trained Philistine soldier. It's a remarkable story in which the underdog, David, prevails against great odds and wins the battle for freedom with a small stone.<br /><br />There is an ever-growing graveyard of large companies that, regretfully, underestimated the power of human rapport, in the pursuit for bigger and better. They long forgot the purpose of their existence, and the real value that they offered.<br /><br /><br /></div>Thelifestudiohttp://www.blogger.com/profile/01833198516102192136noreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4456750083411847586.post-18595930128792811502011-06-07T04:26:00.000-07:002011-06-07T04:26:30.014-07:00The Life Studio: Therapy Tuesday<a href="http://thelifestudio-becki.blogspot.com/2011/06/wednesday-wisdom.html?spref=bl">The Life Studio: Therapy Tuesday</a>: "'Worrying is like a rocking chair, it gives you something to do but it doesn't get you anywhere' ancient proverb How true is this!! ..."Thelifestudiohttp://www.blogger.com/profile/01833198516102192136noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4456750083411847586.post-66931078873608634802011-06-07T02:33:00.000-07:002011-06-07T04:25:16.112-07:00Therapy Tuesday<a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhX9xgP5eP2dSvgt-8LR40QLoWpLbwEwU2lEKSwZXxmZOe5LAySzlX9nKCXg9m_VTJT48L5jEu7GnwZE_jl-HwG2V0C70Fj2nVoZeV2pMMOE8WafFKaI0Qceb7rd0OYKVUoBYpQPdRccrmW/s1600/anti-stress-therapy.jpg"><img style="MARGIN: 0px 10px 10px 0px; WIDTH: 229px; FLOAT: left; HEIGHT: 320px; CURSOR: hand" id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5615429741120599506" border="0" alt="" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhX9xgP5eP2dSvgt-8LR40QLoWpLbwEwU2lEKSwZXxmZOe5LAySzlX9nKCXg9m_VTJT48L5jEu7GnwZE_jl-HwG2V0C70Fj2nVoZeV2pMMOE8WafFKaI0Qceb7rd0OYKVUoBYpQPdRccrmW/s320/anti-stress-therapy.jpg" /></a><br /><br /><br /><br /><br /><div><strong><em><span style="font-size:130%;">'Worrying is like a rocking chair, it gives you something to do but it doesn't get you anywhere'</span></em> <span style="font-size:85%;">ancient proverb</span></strong><span style="font-size:85%;"><br /></span><br />How true is this!! If we added up all the minutes we spent worrying about something in the last month, most of us would have found some very valuable time to invest doing something much more fun. Worrying does nothing, that's right, NOTHING to help us. It does not provide solutions, it doesn't comfort, it does not make us healthy, and it does not improve our relationships.<br /><br />So what is the purpose of worrying?<br /><br />When you are in a state of 'worry' you are worrying about something that hasn't yet happened. True? It's worrying about the future. That is, your brain is creating lots of negative possibilities for the future. It's a bit like having a train stopped between stations and the driver putting the handbrake on (or whatever a train has!) and sitting and worrying about what's at the next station. What the driver needs to do is decide where the train is going, if the track ahead is going where he doesn't want to go, he needs to create and build a new track. Then he needs to get back on the train and take the handbrake off.</div><br /><br /><br /><br /><br /><div>Many people have become expert worriers and are still in nappies when it comes to truly creating their own solutions. I know I was!</div><br /><br /><br /><br /><br /><div>A client I worked with last year was constantly 'worrying' about money. His very real lack of funds was crippling his quality of life. The worry was preventing him from being able to view his options and was creating much stress. What he was doing was trying to survive on so little. What he wasn't doing was investing the same energy in creating HOW he could raise his income. In other words he was keeping the problem. In his case his money strategies began when he was six years old...but that's a blog for another day.<br /><br />Whatever you are dealing with in life you CAN live a worry free life - worry simply indicates that you have run out of track. The solution is to check back in and create YOUR OWN choices for the future.<br /><br />Stop worrying, choose your thoughts carefully, and get monstrously creative. The answers are all in your own noggin.</div><br /><br /><br /><br /><br /><div>Happy Tuesday </div>Thelifestudiohttp://www.blogger.com/profile/01833198516102192136noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4456750083411847586.post-734670374302164152011-06-06T03:40:00.000-07:002011-06-06T03:59:03.253-07:00Holidays - heaven or hell?<a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEiW-vuxJh6E8q1OqyxzHQczMfqGS_V6NNXXROsVD9NAQPRHdRSxpTM_cWCOGzb9LSnstb7fgTmF5QAAYDEMMs2VcCa4KRkyAnB94jWq4LCAURhx08NnJGDDYd2LX-qzj0yaxGHbRapm6HDx/s1600/Suitcase-and-Ball-640x325.jpg"><img style="MARGIN: 0px 0px 10px 10px; WIDTH: 320px; FLOAT: right; HEIGHT: 162px; CURSOR: hand" id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5615057939888131858" border="0" alt="" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEiW-vuxJh6E8q1OqyxzHQczMfqGS_V6NNXXROsVD9NAQPRHdRSxpTM_cWCOGzb9LSnstb7fgTmF5QAAYDEMMs2VcCa4KRkyAnB94jWq4LCAURhx08NnJGDDYd2LX-qzj0yaxGHbRapm6HDx/s320/Suitcase-and-Ball-640x325.jpg" /></a><br /><br /><div>It's that time of year again when everyone is thinking about taking a break and going on holiday. For many of us this year there just isn't the budget to actually go away from home. If you feel like you need a holiday, what can you do instead?<br />The most important thing about taking a holiday is having a rest, mentally & physically. However, as we have witnessed in many a 'holiday from hell’ programme this isn't always the case! There are many things you can adopt to ensure that a holiday at home provides a good break with a sprinkle of fun. There are many things you can do to unplug and deflate from the usual escalator of life.<br /><br /><strong>How to get all the benefits of a holiday without leaving home:</strong></div><br /><div><br />1) Call it a holiday – just because you are at home it is still a holiday. Calling it ‘off work’ doesn’t sound anywhere near as fun.<br />2) Tell your colleagues and boss that you are going away on holiday – you will be amazed how resourceful people can be when they believe you are away. Essentially how you communicate your boundaries shows others how to treat you.<br />3) Do a written and verbal handover of any current projects, even if that is not a usual requirement.<br />4) Decide what holiday spends you have as if you were changing money at the airport – This gives you guilt-free permission to eat out, treat your self to a massage, have a spray tan, buy a spur of the moment gypsy dress you will never wear after your holiday, keep the kids busy with activities etc.<br />5) What is it you want to gain? – Pre holiday, invest 15mins deciding specifically what it is you most want to gain from a break. Is it fun or relaxation? Fitness or lazy days? Decisions detox? Reduce your stress level. How do you want your life to look, feel and be as a result of taking a holiday?<br />6) Who wants to come too? – Invite a friend to join you on your week off, just as you would if you were going away. Same rules apply, make sure you both want the same from your holiday<br />7) Pot Luck anyone? – Invite your friends round for an evening. Set the theme as a country and everyone has to bring a random dish.<br />8) Delegate – book an au pair for the week, or send them off to grannies. Have a holiday from your holiday, create essential YOU time. If you are not full up how can you keep giving to others. 9) It’s not my job – before your holiday write down all your responsibilities, put them into a suitcase or better still post them to you at work so that they are there to pick up when you return. Work from home? Post them to a fantasy address.<br />10) Be open to adventure – Get out of your comfort zone, develop a holiday alter ego and give it all a go…<br /></div>Thelifestudiohttp://www.blogger.com/profile/01833198516102192136noreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4456750083411847586.post-46995281177641503682010-02-02T15:45:00.000-08:002010-02-02T15:58:45.407-08:00It all begins with a beliefEverything that you have now in your life, on some level you have created. 'WHAT?!!' say many of my clients when faced with this question. 'Are you saying that I created xyz. Why would I create xyz, I hate xyz'<br /><br />Yet it is so true. On some level we do create everything in our lives. So if you don't like what you have created in your life it is time to create something else you do like.<br /><br />A great speech to get you started is one by Steve Jobs ex CEO of Apple and current of Pixar Studios<br /><br />Over to Steve <a href="http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=D1R-jKKp3NA">http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=D1R-jKKp3NA</a>Thelifestudiohttp://www.blogger.com/profile/01833198516102192136noreply@blogger.com0